An uncomfortable pattern of events.

[Grandad]

They say things go in three's but I think things can also go in two's.

My father in law died on 11 January 1970. My father followed him four months later on 23 May 1970.

My mother in law died on 2 March 1997. My mother followed her four months later on 27 July 1997.

Our daughters father in law died on Saturday 4 November 2017.

I am sitting uncomfortably about March next year. These events have been a little too close for comfort.

[Horus]

I don't think you have much to worry about Grandad, we all make patterns from unrelated events. To be honest even after reading your list several times I still cannot make the connection, but it is a bit early in the day for my brain to work properly

[Grandad]

H, it is the past pattern of events that registers with me. Both fathers within a few months. Both mothers withing a similar period. For all of those I dealt with all the arrangements.

Now we start at the next generation and our daughter is in the same situation that we were in years ago. Any death of a friend or family member has a profound effect on me and I suppose the death of daughters FiL has that effect on me. He was a very quiet but likeable gentle man and I am pondering if I want to attend his funeral.

Just feeling a bit low at the moment I suppose, but it will pass.

[Horus]

You cannot change the future Grandad, but I can understand you feeling a bit down by his passing. It is a lovely day, you and Mrs G get your coats on and take a taxi into town or to a country pub for your lunch.

[Mad Dilys]

I may have mentioned this before but my parents were married 24 years when my father died within two weeks of the anniversary.

My first husband died about 2 weeks before our 24th wedding anniversary.

My second husband had his 1st severe heart attack two weeks before our 24th wedding anniversary - but Al Hamdulillah has survived! We shall have been married 26 years in December 2017 so perhaps it's all stuff and nonsense?

[LovelyLadyLux]

Hmmmm - patterns patterns everywhere BUT ???

I see the patterns and maybe would be registered to go skydiving or white water rafting come March Grandad but doubt you have much to worry about

I do kinda wonder why 3 seems to be the magic combination vs seeing things in pairs...

[Grandad]

Just feeling a bit low at the moment I suppose, but it will pass.

OK, so that mild depression is passing. Strange but I always feel that way for a few days when someone dies. Even an unrelated neighbour. And for those few days I do not want to attend their funeral. Just part of my make up I suppose. Nothing scares me; heights, water, darkness, spooky sounds; but a death has this effect on me.

The funeral is a week Monday and I am now OK with that.

[Horus]

I once said to a much older friend "you must be tired of going to all these funerals" his reply was not what I expected. He said he was happy to go to lots of other peoples funerals as it meant it was not his own he was attending, he does have a point

[LovelyLadyLux]

I honestly hate to think about funerals and the high number of coworkers and friends I've lost and I'm not thinking I'm that old (yet). Not even collection pensions yet but I think the high stress, high pressure employment I was in contributed to so many passing at very early ages. Those passing from cancers are quite high too.