Things you should know:
Clicking on the chat bar or someone your chatting with will open and close the box.
On the main chat bar you can chosse to be online or offline, you can permantly select your prefrence in your user control panel under social network, you also can choose a sound when you recieve a message here too, DONT forget to press SUBMIT after you have changed a setting.
When you have finished chatting with a member you can close the box by clicking on the X.
If you are playing a game, and someone tries to chat with you, just click the chat box to close it to a small bar. a small box will appear on the chat bar with how many messages they have left you. example below (snapshot from Luxor4u):
Your messages will be saved for 24hrs, you can review you messages by clicking the user control panel then social network then Instant Messenger history
DONT think people are ignoring you if they dont chat back... (maybe they are) BUT In my case my PC is always on, but im not always at my PC
